There are natural disagreements arising between boys and girls in day-by-day
life. Why all these disagreements between guys and ladies are regularly
happened? The answer will be jokey but at the same time clear - by reason we are
various over corporal, emotional dissimilarities between us. Recognizing them
will help us to see some of the motives that lead us to unneeded conflicts.
Christian Marriage is the model from which western marriage is explained. The unique “one-flesh” relationship and family structure described by Jesus Christ and the early church writers create the godly marriage, where both husband and wife are able to resist the seduction of worldly ideas and destructive temptations.
As western culture forgets its roots, the wonder of marriage is lost. Cheap and shallow connections, involving exploitation, insecurity, betrayal and pain then become the norm. In order to reverse that, and rediscover godly marriage that works, we need to have marriage explained clearly, in terms of the Christian marriage, so the most effective relationships can be established. This will not just benefit the couple, but also their children and the society in which they live.
Our existence is always in relation to something and this “something” must be expressed in the language, as without being conveyed in a language this “something” ceases to exist for us. It can be phrased this way: our life, reality and world exist only in the language.
Something which has not respective word to describe it simply does not exist. A language that has a richer vocabulary will produce a richer reality and vise versa. A word has the power of creation of happiness, on a one hand, but also the power of destruction, on the other hand. Our sages said long time ago that “life and death are determined by the tongue”. The wise men of eastern theories say: “life and death is in awareness”. And what is this consciousness if not an inner conversation (word) regarding (my) self perception.
No man is an island, so the saying goes. How true. Everyone needs someone. The closest relationship any two persons can have is marriage. But no matter how close two persons are, there can still be problems in the relationship. It is no different in marriage. No matter how strong the marriage relationship, there can still be friction between the marriage partners. This friction if left un-addressed or if addressed wrongly threatens to unravel the very fabric of the marriage. How can you save a marriage like this?
As a sex therapist, last year I received a wonderful call on January 1–a woman in her thirties who decided that 2007 was the year to celebrate her sexuality! With that kind of motivation, it didn’t take her long to figure it out. Imagine the fun she and her lover had these last 12 months.
What kinds of sexy goals might you make for yourself and your partner for 2008? First, think about your sex life this past year. What was good about it? What needed to be improved? Did you even give it a thought?
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “You’re not just marrying him, you’re marrying his family.” If you cringe and bite your nails to the quick when you hear it now, we really need to talk.
When you said “I do,” you were just referring to the blushing bride across from you, right? Her family was in the audience (sniffling or sobbing or wringing their hands), but you only agreed to marry that one individual, the one you chose. So why are you now bound to these other people, people you wouldn’t sit next to on the subway if you had your choice?